If you notice your typically outgoing child is withdrawing or your quiet child is acting out after you announce your divorce, you may wonder if there is a deeper problem.
Dealing with a divorce is a major event in both you and your child’s life, but stress reduction techniques can help you adjust.
Talk it out
According to Psychology Today, frustrated and overwhelmed children need an outlet for coping with life changes. If you notice your child struggling to complete schoolwork or fighting with you constantly, then it may be because of this need for release.
Talk openly and honestly with your children about their feelings regarding the divorce. Do not discuss details about your ex-spouse, but talk truthfully about the fact that it is ok to feel sad about this new change. Make sure to verbally reassure them that you love them and that the divorce is not their fault.
Plan fun times
A day out together with you or a night watching movies together at home may be the escape your children need during this time. Spending quality time with them helps calm fears that everything in their lives is changing.
Since many children potentially attend new schools or move to different homes after a divorce, having a regular schedule helps keep them feeling secure.
Take note of their reactions
Checking in and noticing varying signs of anxiety, such as losing interest in old hobbies or struggling with temper tantrums, is important to catch early on.
Children are resilient and often adapt well to their new lives once you set clear boundaries and rules. Divorce may feel scary for them at first, but extra reassurance and preparedness can help you both thrive.