Ending a relationship with your child’s other parent changes the dynamic between the adults. The children will also have to deal with some changes. It’s up to you and your ex to ensure that you can transition from romance to parenting as quickly as possible.
One of the best things you can do when you’re calling it quits in your relationship is to tell the children together. This gives them a chance to talk to both parents at the same time to ensure they’re going to get what they need. The kids need to know that they are free to love both parents and enjoy their time with both parents so they won’t have to stress about those.
Set your boundaries and respect theirs
Each person will have their own boundaries for the situation. These should be clearly relayed so everyone knows what those are. It might not always be easy to respect those boundaries but you should make an effort, and your ex should also make an effort.
Treat the situation like a business
Emotions might be high during the divorce. Instead of succumbing to those, treat the situation like a business. This may help you to remain as calm as possible so you can make decisions that benefit the children.
Taking the time to discuss what should be included in the parenting plan is important. You and your ex need to be able to work as a unified team to raise the children. Developing a functional parenting plan is important to your child’s future, and experienced legal guidance is wise.
